Bullying in its many forms is a serious, all-too-common problem, and social media has moved this abuse online. The bullying may involve insults, threats or physical violence, with results that range from damaged self-esteem to poor academic performance to bodily injury.
Children with special needs are more frequently targeted by bullying, less able to deal with it and more likely to suffer permanent harm. Since they often have difficulty with social skills, they may misinterpret a bully’s intentions. And since they frequently yearn for acceptance, they may avoid telling teachers and parents about incidents for fear of becoming even more isolated.
If a child becomes anxious, depressed or avoids social situations they previously enjoyed, it’s time to investigate. If they appear angry or upset when using a smartphone or computer, cyberbullying could be the cause. Watch for a sudden increase or decrease in their use of such devices or a tendency to hide their screen from others.
While there are many steps that parents and schools can take in order to prevent or stop bullying, families should be aware that they also have powerful legal resources at their disposal.
Students with disabilities are guaranteed a “free and appropriate education” under the Individuals with Disabilities Act (IDEA). So if bullying creates an environment that interferes with their learning and the school district is aware of the situation, but takes no action, the law is on the family’s side. In addition, both Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and Title II of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) protect the civil rights of individuals with disabilities. Many states have anti-bullying laws, as well.
Certain forms of cyberbullying are against the law and local authorities should be informed if it involves:
Some states consider additional forms of cyberbullying to be criminal, and parents should consult state law.
If you suspect that your child is being bullied, talk to them about what’s been going on. Find out how and when the bullying began and who is involved. Then immediately contact their teachers and school administrators. Give your child emotional support and determine if they could benefit from counseling. Document all episodes in writing. If cyberbullying is involved, print screen shots, emails and texts, and keep track of dates, times and other details regarding when the incidents occurred.
Insist that there be a point person to whom your child can report any future incidents. If you’re concerned about potential retaliation against your child, request increased supervision. School authorities should reassure your child that the incidents aren’t their fault and that it’s their right to feel safe. Monitor the school’s response, and if you’re not satisfied with the school’s response, continue following up.
Request an IEP (Individualized Education Program) meeting. Social and self-advocacy skills can be even more important than academic performance. Speech therapy and learning conversational norms could help your child avoid taunting. It may be useful to include the child’s psychologist and other members of their private support team in the IEP meetings. Consider involving a special education attorney if you’re not making progress.
Schools are expected to take proactive steps to avoid bullying, including:
Teachers should closely supervise students and quickly address bullying incidents. Schools should educate students about diversity and build inclusive cultures. They should consider creating peer support groups, since research indicates that over half of all bullying situations cease once another student intervenes.
Bullying can cause lasting damage, but a multi-pronged approach can avoid or stop it. Parents and schools must give students with disabilities the support and tools they need in order to have fulfilling educational and social experiences.